A friend told me, “My father reared me to believe that changing your mind is a sign of weakness.” Along these same lines, I recently heard from a client that changing one’s mind is a sign of failure since you weren’t…
As you face a project, it can feel overwhelmingly big regardless of its real size. You only want it to be finished -- yesterday. So, you push yourself to get started, hunker down, and attack it until it's done. As you walk…
Suppose you want to be successful in your adult years and not just be successful but thrive. Thriving is not a destination. It’s a journey. You can expect challenges (problems) to show up on the journey. Even though the problems can be difficult and scary, they are an…
Relevance is the capacity to connect, be useful, or contribute to a matter at hand. The term relevance is most often used to describe ideas. But, I've also heard people, especially older individuals, uniquely use the word saying, "I just want to…
When a person doesn't meet your expectations for behavior, do they owe you an apology (or vice versa)? An offense occurs when a standard is broken. Offenses are easier to define when it comes to civil laws, moral laws, and commonly…
Did you know that every person on the planet has a special story they’ve created for making sense of life? You need a story as a guide to understanding the world and living in it. Your conscious thoughts and actions as well as your…
When your expectations are high, you push your energy and schedule to its limits, and you revisit difficult relationships, you are set up for stress. In the US, the next 8 weeks is the holiday season, a time when these…
The Christmas season is a time of expectation. It's built on the foundational expectation of the coming of Christ as a baby born of the virgin Mary. This sometimes gets lost in unreasonably high social, emotional, and material expectations and…
Ever have a hard time changing channels from thinking about work to focus on leisure and family? Changing the focus of your attention from work to other important things can be challenging, especially when you own your business or you…
Yes, whatever it is, you could do it yourself. “I do it myself ” is the expression of a normally developing two- or three-year-old, but, in some areas, do-it-yourself (DIY) is not always wise for developing adults. Yes, you could…
